CFUF PERSPECTIVES & EXPERIENCES

Since 1999, CFUF has worked with our clients, funders, board and community leaders to build an organization that improves the lives of Baltimore's men and women. We provide them with the tools and information they need to create stronger families and stronger communities. Here are the stories of clients and others who have been involved in our work.



Joseph Jones
President and CEO, Center for Urban Families

"There are people who want to do the right thing. They want to do the right thing for their children, but they are so far behind the eight-ball that they don't have any serious expectation that their life will ever be different from what it has always been. They may want do something better, they may even try, but the level of frustration in dealing with systems, and bureaucracy, and people's low expectations of them, and the barriers and roadblocks that are put before them make it almost impossible and insurmountable for them to overcome the odds - especially for men of color."

In order for us to improve the quality of life in Baltimore, we have to work within the context of the family, but we need to emphasize the inclusion of men and use strategies that help families move forward together in a unified way.

The culture we've created at the Center for Urban Families allows people who live in some of the most disconnected and isolated communities to come here and feel they can trust us.

They recognize that they're not going to be viewed as a number, a statistic, even though they may have certain challenges with whom they are at this particular point.

We give particular attention to males, especially fathers, because they are one-half of the conceiving partnership that brings children into this world. And our social welfare delivery system, locally and nationally, has not been set up to recognize them, particularly as caregivers.

Our children and our families suffer as a result of us not having a system or society that nurtures men. We give them the skills, the methodology, the language, the support, and the optimism to be successful. We give them more than hope. We give them a future."

Joe Jones is founder of The Center for Urban Families. Prior to founding CFUF (formerly called the Center for Fathers, Families and Workforce Development), Joe developed and directed the Men's Services program for the federally funded Baltimore Healthy Start initiative and replicated the Baltimore affiliate of the nationally recognized STRIVE employment services program.

His ability to engage and provide hands-on services to fathers garnered him the reputation of trailblazer in the field.

Joe Jones is now a national leader in workforce development, fatherhood, and family services programming, and through his professional and civic involvement influences policy direction nationwide.

Joe has received numerous awards and honors for his leadership and programming, including the Johns Hopkins University Leadership Development Program's Distinguished Leadership Award.

He has also served on President Bill Clinton's Work Group on Welfare Reform, was an advisor on fatherhood issues to Vice President Al Gore, and contributed to First Lady Laura Bush's Helping America's Youth initiative. He is a Weinberg Fellow and serves as a board member of Open Society Institute-Baltimore, the Development Training Institute, and several other professional, governmental, and civic organizations.

At the age of 50, Joe became a cum laude graduate of the University of Maryland Baltimore County. He is happily married and has three children.

Darcy D'Anna
CFUF employer partner and Human Resources Manager at H & S Bakery

"There's a true sense of enthusiasm and appreciation from the men I've met and hired - and a sense that they're going to contribute now and that they're going to set examples for people. I think it speaks volumes when you're trying to have other people follow in your footsteps. Most of these men have small children - now they can become their role models."

When she was a child, Darcy D'Anna wanted to be on Broadway. She grew up in Pittsburgh, PA, in a neighborhood where everyone knew everyone else, and she had lots of strong adults in her family and in her community who believed in her abilities.

She and her husband have recently moved to Baltimore and they like the small town charm of the city.

H & S Bakery has hired five STRIVE graduates, all of whom are succeeding at their jobs, and Darcy hopes to hire more, because of their abilities and attitudes.

Robert C. Embry, Jr.
President, Abell Foudnation

"STRIVE has real credibility because the people running it are from the community and have experienced many of the problems that young men face growing up in Baltimore. There's no other entity that consistently addresses this issue, which is the number one challenge facing Baltimore today. The problem is growing, but the resources that deal with it are not. So, in my mind it's critical that STRIVE grows. It's very efficient and effective, no-nonsense and results-oriented in what it does."

Bob Embry always felt that he wanted to be able to help people or correct situations that were hurting people.

As a young boy, he had no specific ambitions, but liked reading about people who could affect change, whether they were presidents or noblemen.

Bob grew up with parents who expected him to do well, attended Williams College, and went on to Harvard Law School. He has long been a driving force for implementing social change in Baltimore and is the President of the Abell Foundation.

Moses Hammett
CFUF Director of Workforce Development

"A lot of other folks say, "We'll build it and they will come.' We say, "We'll build it and we will go get you.' Part of the uniqueness of what we have done is our street outreach. From day one when we started this program, we did not leave it to people to come in our door: we went out and we knocked on their doors.

For a lot of the folks that we work with, if it was not for the consistency of going back into our communities, they would not contemplate coming. We almost become surrogate parents to these individuals who have been a part of the underground economy for so long that to go to a job and work from nine to five is really difficult.

We help men and women reconnect to the legitimate economy, so that they can become role models and providers."

Born in Baltimore, Moses Hammett grew up as the youngest of eight children. His father was a longshoreman, working at the docks unloading ships.

Heading out to work each day at 5:30 a.m., he instilled in Moses a strong work ethic that remains with him today.

As a child, Moses wanted to be a pediatrician because his mother had lost two infants and he thought perhaps he could have made a difference. He recognized early on that he liked helping people. He now serves as the Director of Workforce Development at CFUF.

Freeman Hrabowski
CFUF Campaign Committee member and President, UMBC

"The world's not necessarily fair, but that's not what's important. What's important is that each of us has the power to shape our future - that's the message that CFUF conveys to the larger community. The success of CFUF is inextricably tied to the success of the city itself.

The Center is using practical approaches to change people's lives, to help them develop the skills that they need, to think about what it takes to be effective as a parent, to help them find a job so they can be responsible as citizens. We need to look at that success, build on that success, replicate that success, and talk about that success, because each of us has a responsibility, an obligation, to make this city better."

An only child of two teachers, Freeman Hrabowski wanted to teach math when he was five years old, and when he was thirteen, he knew he wanted to be a college dean.

His father always held at least three jobs. His parents were his role models. They not only worked hard, they always supported others.

While they attended civil rights meetings in Birmingham, AL, where he grew up, they made sure he finished his homework in the back of the room.

Freeman graduated at nineteen from the Hampton Institute with honors in mathematics and went on to receive his master's and Ph.D. from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign. He realized his dream - first becoming Dean at UMBC and then President of the university in 1992.

Eric Jordan
Graduate of the STRIVE program, Marketing Representative at United Equity

"STRIVE has really been my backbone since I've been home from prison. They teach you how to be professional on the job, how to deal with your supervisors, how to deal with your co-workers, how to mind your business, how to conduct yourself, how to dress, make sure you're on time. I don't think there's any area they don't cover in terms of how you should conduct yourself in the workforce world. They have been with me through everything in professional life. It's been the gateway to everything I was able to achieve."

Born in Baltimore, Eric Jordan grew up in the Lexington Terrace projects. His strongest role model was his grandmother, and as child, when he thought about the future, he "just wanted to be happy. I wanted a normal life like every other kid."

But he ended up being influenced by many of what he calls "negative people," made some bad choices, and ultimately was incarcerated for over seventeen years.

While in prison, he actively pursued an education, reading, studying, and envisioning a different life for himself. He enrolled in STRIVE five days after his release from prison. For the last three years, since graduating from the program, he has worked for a mortgage company in downtown Baltimore, where he has been their top grossing salesperson since he started his employment.

Jamie McDonald
CFUF Founding Board member, Managing Partner Velocity Sports Performance

"At this particular moment in time, leaders in the community are starting to understand that the issues are very complex and that you can never really create change just by addressing one single issue - the role of fatherhood or the need to get job. Any of those things by themselves is just a piece of the answer. We're trying to provide a much more comprehensive solution to changing the community. We believe that if you tie these services together, you can change the landscape of Baltimore - and the validity of our results will transcend our borders and have a national impact."

Her mother was a single mother who struggled to raise three children in a city neighborhood in Philadelphia. Jamie knew as a child that she wanted to lead a different life, and she wanted to be secure, financially secure.

She was admitted to a magnet school in fourth grade and learned the importance of high personal standards. She found teachers who believed in and encouraged her.

After graduate school, she moved to Baltimore to work for Alex Brown, where she became a Managing Director and worked for sixteen years.

Today she consults with companies about growth strategy and owns Velocity Sports Performance.

Walter Pearson
CFUF Board member, Managing Director, Senior Portfolio Manager at Brown Capital Management program

"In order to turn around this city, no matter how successful the Harbor becomes, we have to address the African-American male, especially the black male who's had a couple of strikes against him. This is one of the few organizations that does. About 70% of those in the Maryland Penitentiary are there because of nonviolent drug-related offenses - nonviolent! That means that most of these kids were followers - they weren't leaders. They were in the wrong place at the wrong time, got caught up, and got in trouble. But I think everyone deserves a second chance. If you are a convicted felon, it's really hard to get a second chance, but here, they give folks a second chance."

Walt Pearson grew up in a housing project in Brooklyn, and, as a boy, he wanted to grow up to be a professional athlete. His mother was a great believer in education and enrolled him in a private school across town. But when he returned home each day, he was surrounded by "folks who were not ambitious, a lot of drug dealers and hustlers."

In eighth grade he was a troublemaker in school, but his math teacher recognized his abilities and taught him about the stock market. Walt became intrigued and then got hooked.

From there he went to St. Francis College on a basketball scholarship, where he was an honorable mention Academic All-American and then went to Harvard Business School.

He serves as Managing Director, Senior Portfolio Manager at Brown Capital Management. He is a member of the Center for Urban Families Board of Directors.

Dorothy Stanley
Graduate of the STRIVE program, Operator at Hedwin Corporation

"After you go through STRIVE and graduate, it's just the beginning of the rest of your life. Every day now, I tell mychildren, ‘As far as this world, you get only what you put into it and you have to go forward.' And as long as you say, 'I can, I can, I can, I can' and have that motivation and the people behind you, you can do anything you want to do. And that's what I like about STRIVE. They're always there for you: they're friends, a family away from home. That's what this place is. They make sure they push you, make sure you get what you need, and they don't let you slack. They knew that I was a person who would get going, and they wouldn't let me stop until I got there."

Dorothy grew up in Baltimore in a large family, and as a child she "wanted to do a lot of things, but mostly, I wanted to help people." She loved school; math was her favorite subject.

She earned her high school diploma at Mergenthaler Vocational-Technical Senior High School. Before enrolling in STRIVE, Dorothy worked at a supermarket.

She decided to enroll in the STRIVE program to gain skills that would enable her to get a better job. As a single parent, she considers herself "a strong provider" for herself and her children. "First and foremost," she says, "I'm a parent."

A 2002 graduate of STRIVE, she has been steadily progressing in her career and is now an operator at a plastic motor machine company.

Chris Tillman & Melinda Middleton
Graduates of CFUF's Building Strong Families program

"Daughters need someone to boost their confidence—a father to say, ‘You're beautiful,' so they won't look to someone else. For males, they need someone to teach them how to be a man and be able to say, 'My father was there for me.' Those are things I can't do, so I think it's really important for fathers to be in their kids' life as much as possible." - Melinda

Chris and Melinda both grew up in Baltimore. When their daughter, Myana, was a year old, Melinda again became pregnant.

As a couple, they were going through a difficult time, and while at the hospital, they were encouraged to participate in CFUF's Building Strong Families program.

The program helped them create a cohesive family.

As a child, Melinda wanted to be a pediatrician because she liked her doctor so much, but now she is completing her college degree and wants to work with children in a different way, teaching elementary school and perhaps opening a day-care center.

Chris is doing landscape work but is considering other options - carpentry and construction.

Donyel & Danyel Torsell
Graduate of the Responsible Fatherhood Program, Executive Support at Verizon

"I believe a lot of men don't step up to the plate because of lack of knowledge—they just don't know what to do. When you hear sports figures in football or baseball, they always say, "I love you, Ma,' on TV. They never say, "I love you, Dad.' And that's because there's a lot of single women out there raising kids. But I believe a lot of men should step up to the plate and they want to. The program has taught me how to be more responsible. Here you talk about real issues and real responsibilities."

Growing up in Baltimore with a father who served as a strong role model, Donyel Torsell wanted to be a lawyer because he could talk his way through everything - and also because he liked to watch the TV show "Perry Mason."

His supportive parents made sure he steered clear of drugs and alcohol and urged him to earn his high school diploma.

While searching for resources that would enable him to gain custody of his daughter, Danyel, he found the Baltimore Responsible Fatherhood Project (BRFP) on the internet.

Donyel brought all of his resources to his daughter's custody hearing: a parenting class certificate from BRFP, his CFUF case manager, an elder from his church, another parent from his daughter's cheerleading team, his mother, and his aunt.

The result: He received custody of his daughter.

David Warnock
CFUF Chariman of the Board, Foudning Partner at Camden Partners

"One of the magical things about this place is that we've taken a traditional workforce development model and recognized that if we're going to prepare people to be really successful, we have to think about all those collateral disabilities that keep people from buying into a world that many of us wake up to every day and take for granted - everything from how to be a father to how to buy a house, to how to not get ripped off buying a car or cashing your paycheck. The only way to change things is to be an information network for people—and that's what we provide."

When he was a child, David Warnock wanted to be a "rock star," he says, "like everybody else!"

His ambitions changed along the way. His father was brought up on an Indian reservation and went from there to M.I.T. David was raised in a middle-class family with the expectation that he would not only do well, but that he would "do something out of the ordinary."

David graduated from the University of Delaware and received a master's at the University of Wisconsin. He is a founding partner at Camden Partners and serves as the Chairman of the Board at the Center for Urban Families.